Change is getting a haircut, moving to a new home, leaving a relationship, getting into a new one, switching career paths, quitting smoking. Right?
Well, not really. Changing your external circumstances cannot be done without going through the internal changes first.
Of course, those changes can benefit your internal well-being, immensely so! But if YOU don’t change, all you will be is unfulfilled you in a different house, car, outfit and job.
As a human being, your options are infinite!! Freedom is your birthright, I understand the need to escape your current circumstances when you don’t resonate with them anymore. However, true fulfillment happens on the inside, when you “feel” like a new person, you feel invincible, because the feeling of freedom is absolutely not something you can BUY. The feeling of freedom is knowing that YOU can change, you can live in the same house and still feel yourself outgrowing unhappiness. That’s POWER. Power happens when you know you don’t depend on anything external to feel fulfilled in life. Not a relationship, not a belief system, not a geographic place, not anything that you are desperately trying to avoid in order to make it disappear.
Therefore, when you don’t like where you are at, instead of focusing on possessions and sell your soul to that physical change you just “bought”, true change can happen when you understand what changed WITHIN you for you to not want to deal with your current surroundings.
What part of your surroundings have you outgrown? And why ? Now that is question a changed person should really answer to. YOU are changing, YOU are growing, YOU are wanting different circumstances because YOU are not the persona that aligned with those surroundings.
YOU are not that job you want to quit, YOU are not feeling happy anymore with what you have.
So to change your life, understand that you need to follow your inner bliss. Write it down, get used to outgrowing old versions of yourself because only then will you “feel” the change. Practice journalling who you are not anymore to understand how to provoke REAL changes. Be ambitious, take risks, change who you are, not what you have.
Changing your life starts with mastering the art of change. Releasing layers of who you are not will enhance your power because change is pure chemistry: transformation happens when you let go of something in order to give birth to something different and new.
Independence is yours when you keep track of your persona and how it wants different things as time passes. Otherwise, as we moroccans say, it’s like wearing makeup as a cover up.
My advice to you: get started on keeping track of who you are, what you need and what you want. Then learn how to fulfill yourself with nothing but your natural happiness for being “alive”. Change is SPIRITUAL. Follow your Spirit, nourish it, validate it, speak to it, express it.
Less having, more BEING. Now that’s happiness, power and independence.
BE different, BE changed, BE the newer, cooler version of you. Use your physical senses, feelings because those are the only things that will last, forever. Make your life adjust to YOU, not the other way around. I understand changed people, not changed physical attributes. Feel me?